There comes a time in your life when you have to be understanding. Understanding of other people's beliefs, thoughts, dreams, and faults. I find that the older I get the more understanding I am in the small things, and the less understanding I am in the big things. Why is that? Or maybe perhaps what I used to think of as a big thing was really a small thing, and what I think of now as a small thing is really a big thing? Hmmm....
For instance I really can't stand when people invade other's personal space. It really, really bothers me. I find myself not being very understanding. However someone can have a car accident that was clearly their fault, but I just find myself being so understanding for that person. I am just like..."oh they must have had a lot going on." What is the difference in those situations? Why can I be so understanding at one thing, but not the other.
Another example is gossip. I have a REALLY hard time being understanding when it comes to people gossiping about those that are close to me, but then I am perfectly fine about people gossiping about movie stars, or those that I don't know. Why? They are still people....why can I understand when they do it against strangers, but not those that I know?
Being understanding takes a lot of patience, and compassion. It takes looking at the other person and seeing their perspective. I don't do the best at that.
I am working on being a more understanding person, but it is a journey that is for sure.
What about you? Are you authentically understanding?