Independence is what I always wanted from the time I was like 2. At least that is what my parents have told me. Isn't that what every 2 year old wants? I saw a friend post the other day... that her two year old was like, "Me do it." That's the phase of life....but I am not sure we ever truly grow out of it. What does living authentically independent mean to me?
I think it means that I go for what I want. It means that I listen to people, but I don't let them get me down. It also means that I don't trust a lot. Most of my posts so far have been about good things I find in myself. Being absolutely independent isn't necessarily a quality that I think is good. I find that it means I would rather do something myself because I have found that I can't depend on others for a lot of things. People let me down A LOT. Because people aren't perfect. Too bad, right? I find myself too often just wanting to be alone because people create drama, and I am soooo tired of drama!
Often when I talk about the places I have lived, and the things that I have done, those that have never experienced true independence question me. "What you really did all of that on your own." You just packed up and moved to another country without knowing anyone. Yes, I did and I survived. Once when talking to my Dad, I was apologizing for leaving yet again and moving to the other side of the world. His response, "We taught you to be independent, we didn't want you hanging onto our apron strings your whole life." How thankful am I for that? So very thankful!
What about you? Are you independent? Do you find yourself untrustworthy that others will be there for you? Are you too dependent? How does authentic independence fit into your life?