This post should have been written on Friday, but instead I was lazy! Ha!
Oh well...here it goes.
Things that I find inspiring......
*people's stories
*Golden Globes
*generosity of people I don't know
*kids that give up material things for others
*songs that really encourage
*quotes
*the beach
*heartache
*laughter
*jokes
*dreams
*visions
*friends
*honesty
*books
*movies
*character
*love
Sunday, January 11, 2015
Thursday, January 8, 2015
Why Change Is So Hard For Most People
Change...it is a word that most people do not like. It causes people to have nightmares, cold sweats, stomachaches, and many other things when they think of anything that requires change. I have never understood this, because I just am not a person that freaks out at change, in fact I am the opposite. I freak out when things don't change. I would much rather change my situation than be unhappy. I would much rather change then put down roots, because I find that putting down roots sometimes hurts. It is hard to be a person that likes change. It is hard to be a person that likes change, but doesn't always adapt well to change. But I am.
I long for things to be changed up. I do not want to continue in the same old pattern day in and day out. I just can't do it. To have the same routine day after day makes me cringe and want to change things up.
This year has been very tough. Tonight I was reminded again that not everyone likes change. In fact people will be downright mean when change must happen. We all deal with it differently. Some of us revert back to 2 year old temper tantrums, some of us just ignore it and pretend it isn't happening, others scream at it, still others try to force it to not change, and the best of us embrace it with open arms.
There is no way I can be considered in that last category because as much as I love change I don't embrace it at all. I hate when my schedule gets messed up, even though I will be the first to go on an unexpected adventure. I hate when someone acts completely different than they normally do, even though I encourage people to step outside of the box.
Why are we so inclined to hate change? What is it about our lives, or about our past that makes us want everything to stay exactly the same?
Comfort, I think that it boils down to we love to be comfortable. We love to be experts at life. If things change then we are no longer experts. We no longer know what is going on and where we stand in life. We no longer can predict what is going to happen. Without predictions we might fail. Failure is looked down on. No one wants to fail because we have been taught that failure is wrong. That failure means weakness. But does it?
I don't think so. I have failed so many times. I have misspoken, I have lied, I have regretted the words that came out of my mouth, I have lost friends, I have lost trust, I have failed. It doesn't make me weak, it doesn't make me unlovable, it makes me human.
Change is hard. What if it wasn't though? What if we learned from early on to embrace change? What if we welcomed change with open arms even if it meant that we might fail? Or that we might not know ALL the answers. What if???
I long for things to be changed up. I do not want to continue in the same old pattern day in and day out. I just can't do it. To have the same routine day after day makes me cringe and want to change things up.
This year has been very tough. Tonight I was reminded again that not everyone likes change. In fact people will be downright mean when change must happen. We all deal with it differently. Some of us revert back to 2 year old temper tantrums, some of us just ignore it and pretend it isn't happening, others scream at it, still others try to force it to not change, and the best of us embrace it with open arms.
There is no way I can be considered in that last category because as much as I love change I don't embrace it at all. I hate when my schedule gets messed up, even though I will be the first to go on an unexpected adventure. I hate when someone acts completely different than they normally do, even though I encourage people to step outside of the box.
Why are we so inclined to hate change? What is it about our lives, or about our past that makes us want everything to stay exactly the same?
Comfort, I think that it boils down to we love to be comfortable. We love to be experts at life. If things change then we are no longer experts. We no longer know what is going on and where we stand in life. We no longer can predict what is going to happen. Without predictions we might fail. Failure is looked down on. No one wants to fail because we have been taught that failure is wrong. That failure means weakness. But does it?
I don't think so. I have failed so many times. I have misspoken, I have lied, I have regretted the words that came out of my mouth, I have lost friends, I have lost trust, I have failed. It doesn't make me weak, it doesn't make me unlovable, it makes me human.
Change is hard. What if it wasn't though? What if we learned from early on to embrace change? What if we welcomed change with open arms even if it meant that we might fail? Or that we might not know ALL the answers. What if???
Wednesday, January 7, 2015
Just not sure...
Not sure what to do with my life....
Not sure where to go...
Not sure who to trust...
Not sure how to live...
Not sure if this is the right path...
Not sure if I want more...
Not sure if there is more than this.......
Not sure where to go...
Not sure who to trust...
Not sure how to live...
Not sure if this is the right path...
Not sure if I want more...
Not sure if there is more than this.......
Tuesday, January 6, 2015
Anchors
For Christmas my sister got us each an anchor necklace. It is a symbol of us sisters always having an anchor. It was a great gift, so true. I'm thankful for the anchors in my life. Those people that will always be there, no matter how many mistakes I make or whatever dumb things I do. There will always be anchors that keep me grounded, hold me up when I can't do it on my own, and never cease to love me.
Monday, January 5, 2015
Thinking back on the places I've seen!
I find myself out of time again today. I wish that I would have been able to get more things done today, so I would have time to write a great blog, but I am so far behind it is not even funny! Ughhh! So I am just going to do a little thinking about places I've been and things I have been able to experience!
One of my very favorite experiences was getting to snorkel in the Red Sea. I don't have a lot of pictures from that time (technology wasn't what it is today...ha) But it was so much fun!
I remember being able to jump in with the non-stinging jellyfish and snorkel. It was amazing. I will never have another experience like it. I think it was one of the few times that I can remember truly thinking how big the world is. If only we could all understand that. If only!
One of my very favorite experiences was getting to snorkel in the Red Sea. I don't have a lot of pictures from that time (technology wasn't what it is today...ha) But it was so much fun!
I remember being able to jump in with the non-stinging jellyfish and snorkel. It was amazing. I will never have another experience like it. I think it was one of the few times that I can remember truly thinking how big the world is. If only we could all understand that. If only!
Sunday, January 4, 2015
When we Dream...
I thought that I was going to be writing about the movie I went to yesterday and that whole experience, but after the past few days with things that I have read, I just feel that there is something else on my mind.
The something else is this....
What if we are putting dreams in our children that aren't really the dreams we should be putting into them. What if as a society we shouldn't be forcing them into little marriages the minute we see a little baby boy and girl together looking cute. What if instead of calling little 2 or 3 year olds girlfriend and boyfriends (just as a joke I realize), but what if instead of all that we focused on growing them up to be the best version of themselves. What if we help them to be okay with who they are before putting pressure on them to be who they are with someone else.
I know we were made for companionship, we were made to be there for each other, to have a "mate." But here's the thing....not all of us have that. Would my parents have guessed when I was 3 years old that I would still be single at 33? No they probably had no idea. But you know what? What if that was never the expectation? What if I grew up being okay with being me. What if my journey was about finding out who I am, working through the tough things that have happened to me...and being ME. Being me through the mistakes, being me through the icky, yucky, horrible days that I face. What if our society was built around kids figuring out who they are, and their role in society instead of worrying about who they are going to marry? What if???
What if every single movie focused on finding yourself instead of these two people hooking up, or those two people getting divorced, or that couple over there finally finding each other after 20 + years. I am not saying do away with love, romance, or couples. I am just saying what if the focus was about the real journey. Not just the Hollywood version of the journey.
The majority of the people in the world are with someone. But sometimes I have to wonder if they are with someone because they really want to be, or because they are trying to fill a void in their lives. Do they stay with that person for 20 years because they really love them, or is it just because what is expected of them?
I think we need to find ourselves again. Apart from other people. Apart from the role we fill in our lives. Whether that is daughter, mother, sister, friend, wife, lover, adulterer, caretaker, teacher, addict. We need to look into the depth of who we are, and say that we are okay first with being ourselves, and second with doing what we need to do to better the world.
I feel like there is an age for everything. I feel like everyone thinks the right age to get married is in your early 20's after all you still have energy to raise kids then, etc. But I have to wonder, if there weren't expectations put on people to find someone by the ripe old age of 21, would there be less divorce, less heartache? Would people be able to find themselves first, and would our society perhaps be a better place?
I don't know...maybe not. I do know that our society has a problem. No one knows who they are. No one can be real. Social Media, technology, and just the lack of compassion is making our world a place where no one can truly be themselves. I feel like it is all one big show. Who can post the most things on FB, or whose life is the worst....sometimes I just want to go back to the way things used to be when the only way you knew what was going on in someone's life was if you talked to them on the phone or went over to their house. We post things on social media that make ourselves look good, or call out for attention. We want to see how many people will like our posts, our pictures our lives. We scream out PLEASE ACCEPT ME! I need to feel LOVED! When I sometimes wonder how many people actually care anyways, or is it just a time waster? Social Media has caused us to look at a news article and judge based on the words we read, instead of looking at the whole picture. Instead of having compassion for what that person is going through and feeling for them. We are so quick to judge, we are so quick to use our words to fight for what we think is right. We forget that there are two or three or ten sides to every story. We are so quick to comment that really all people need sometimes is to be silent and be heard.
Maybe I'm wrong...maybe we are doing things exactly the way we should be, but for some reason it just doesn't feel right to me. For some reason I think there are too many 20-30 something year olds unhappy because they never really got the chance to figure out who they were and what they wanted. For that matter just too many unhappy people. Lost in a world of regret, heartache, pain and anger. I don't have the answer, but I am going to keep searching. I feel like somewhere, somehow we can change the dream. We can help our kids grow up in a world where they dream of being the best version of themselves, and they ACHIEVE IT!
The something else is this....
What if we are putting dreams in our children that aren't really the dreams we should be putting into them. What if as a society we shouldn't be forcing them into little marriages the minute we see a little baby boy and girl together looking cute. What if instead of calling little 2 or 3 year olds girlfriend and boyfriends (just as a joke I realize), but what if instead of all that we focused on growing them up to be the best version of themselves. What if we help them to be okay with who they are before putting pressure on them to be who they are with someone else.
I know we were made for companionship, we were made to be there for each other, to have a "mate." But here's the thing....not all of us have that. Would my parents have guessed when I was 3 years old that I would still be single at 33? No they probably had no idea. But you know what? What if that was never the expectation? What if I grew up being okay with being me. What if my journey was about finding out who I am, working through the tough things that have happened to me...and being ME. Being me through the mistakes, being me through the icky, yucky, horrible days that I face. What if our society was built around kids figuring out who they are, and their role in society instead of worrying about who they are going to marry? What if???
What if every single movie focused on finding yourself instead of these two people hooking up, or those two people getting divorced, or that couple over there finally finding each other after 20 + years. I am not saying do away with love, romance, or couples. I am just saying what if the focus was about the real journey. Not just the Hollywood version of the journey.
The majority of the people in the world are with someone. But sometimes I have to wonder if they are with someone because they really want to be, or because they are trying to fill a void in their lives. Do they stay with that person for 20 years because they really love them, or is it just because what is expected of them?
I think we need to find ourselves again. Apart from other people. Apart from the role we fill in our lives. Whether that is daughter, mother, sister, friend, wife, lover, adulterer, caretaker, teacher, addict. We need to look into the depth of who we are, and say that we are okay first with being ourselves, and second with doing what we need to do to better the world.
I feel like there is an age for everything. I feel like everyone thinks the right age to get married is in your early 20's after all you still have energy to raise kids then, etc. But I have to wonder, if there weren't expectations put on people to find someone by the ripe old age of 21, would there be less divorce, less heartache? Would people be able to find themselves first, and would our society perhaps be a better place?
I don't know...maybe not. I do know that our society has a problem. No one knows who they are. No one can be real. Social Media, technology, and just the lack of compassion is making our world a place where no one can truly be themselves. I feel like it is all one big show. Who can post the most things on FB, or whose life is the worst....sometimes I just want to go back to the way things used to be when the only way you knew what was going on in someone's life was if you talked to them on the phone or went over to their house. We post things on social media that make ourselves look good, or call out for attention. We want to see how many people will like our posts, our pictures our lives. We scream out PLEASE ACCEPT ME! I need to feel LOVED! When I sometimes wonder how many people actually care anyways, or is it just a time waster? Social Media has caused us to look at a news article and judge based on the words we read, instead of looking at the whole picture. Instead of having compassion for what that person is going through and feeling for them. We are so quick to judge, we are so quick to use our words to fight for what we think is right. We forget that there are two or three or ten sides to every story. We are so quick to comment that really all people need sometimes is to be silent and be heard.
Maybe I'm wrong...maybe we are doing things exactly the way we should be, but for some reason it just doesn't feel right to me. For some reason I think there are too many 20-30 something year olds unhappy because they never really got the chance to figure out who they were and what they wanted. For that matter just too many unhappy people. Lost in a world of regret, heartache, pain and anger. I don't have the answer, but I am going to keep searching. I feel like somewhere, somehow we can change the dream. We can help our kids grow up in a world where they dream of being the best version of themselves, and they ACHIEVE IT!
Saturday, January 3, 2015
My Changed Life....
I got to see the movie Wild today!! I made a commitment to post everyday, but I need time to reflect before I write...so today is a simple post. A picture from not too long ago....it will always mean a lot to me. Can't explain why, but just hold a place in my heart. Thankful for memories!
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